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[Mar. 2nd, 2009|10:50 am] |
I've often seen unreasonable behaviour in other people's relationships, been reminded of past difficulties within my own, and been reminded of a piece of advice an old friend gave me many years ago, after a break up of her own - 'no relationship is better than a bad relationship'. Not great phrasing as it could be interpreted in the wrong way, but a long held sentiment - I'd rather be single than be manipulated, changed - which is why I finished my co-habitation relationship some years ago. I knew I had the choice to stay, have a family, resign myself to being a lesser subset of me, and I don't regret the choice I made.
Anyway, gratefully acquired from another journal (not credited directly as there's obvious privacy issues), a list of unreasonable behaviours within relationships:
emotional abuse checklist
Me being me, I looked at it as much as 'have I done that?' as much as 'I've experienced that'. I also know that many, many people are not in a position, financial or otherwise, to leave a relationship, and in other cases they may chose their own compromise. I know too many people who have to put up with shit, frankly. Worth a read through.
It's not all negative, many, many people have happy, balanced relationships, and that's great, it really is, I am truly happy for those people.
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